03-15-2007 - 9:57 p.m.
I really hate dating.
I guess that's why I went back to Scott for 3 different rounds, just because something familiar is so much easier than something new.
So I had a date tonight. A guy that went to my college who I randomly ran into a while back at a bar. Seems like a nice enough individual, but I'm having issues.
First off...
I'd say that when I'm at my best all done up and dressed nice, I'm probably average. Like maybe a 6 or so. So obviously any guy I've ever dated has also fallen into the "average" range, or perhaps the "good looking" realm. Then by some fluke, I dated Scott who is pretty damn near a 10 and most certainly earns the title of "hot". So the problem is... once you get a taste of "hot" it's pretty hard to go back! Like imagine feasting on filet and lobster for months and then suddenly finding yourself surrounded by Hungry Man salisbury steak and mashed potatoes. It's quite a spot to be put in! I find myself being so critical and picky, when in reality I'm not a super hot girl who can afford to be critical or picky. It's all because of damn Scott! If I hadn't been blessed with his hotness, I wouldn't know any better!
My second dilemma...
It turns out that alot of men have really poor dating etiquette that completely turns me off. I'm by no means a gold digger, or a girl on the lookout for someone to take care of me. I have a good job, own a home, and take care of myself. But there's a little old fashioned piece of me that still believes a man should pay on at least the first couple dates. Of course when you're an established couple hanging out all the time, it's very fair for the girl to pay for things as well. But I think in the very beginning it's crucial for the guy to make the gesture of offering to pay.
Back in the fall I went out a few times with a guy who was a couple years younger than me and completely clueless on paying for a date. On our first date he actually looked at the check said "I'll throw in the first 20", then handed me the bill to pay the rest. On a subsequent date when I offered to pay the bill he was like "Really? Cool!" and shoved his wallet back in his pocket. Moron.
Tonight's date was pretty similar in nature. I had one drink, he had two, and when we were ready to leave the bartender brought us a bill. It was close to $15. So he takes out a 10 and a 1 and says to me "Well, mine came to $8.50, so I'm putting in $11". My jaw almost dropped at the fact that he was actually divying up the bill according to what we ordered. My thought throughout the date was "Um, this is okay. I guess I'd go out with him again." But the way he handled the bill made me say "No way is this happening again!"
Am I completely wrong?
